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Calling UUs Preparing to Reopen

August 26, 2021 by xk Leave a Comment

Calling UUs Preparing to Reopen

Calling UUs Preparing to Reopen. This post is for my fellow UUs as they prepare to reopen. Please don’t forget to include BIPOC UUs in your preparations. This is essential if you are going to “keep it 100” and jumpstart your allyship.

I’m calling you to be intentional and invite a representative number of BIPOCs into your deliberations and ask for their perspectives. If your congregation is like mine, you already have BIPOCs on your staff. Indeed, you must have BIPOC members whom you can consult about your reopening protocols.

If I were you, I’d ask those BIPOC staff and members for their viewpoints on what needs to happen for them to feel welcomed when you resume in-person worship and church activities. They will have points of view that may differ from the white staff and membership. What a gift this is for you!

Less than 100 responses

You may respond, “The BIPOCs in my congregation are not on staff, and we only have a handful that attend services. I don’t believe they are interested in this.” Some might respond, “We’ve already figured it out and have a game plan. It is not possible to change the plan. I hope not. Others may say, “We don’t have any BIPOCs on staff nor the membership.” This is totally not aligned with the UU vision for beloved community or our UU Principles and values.

The reopening of UU spaces during the ongoing Coronavirus pandemic is the perfect time to reset your priorities and make sure you are keeping it 100 with your BIPOC constituency. In fact, the pandemic has given us all an extended period to rethink and strategize how we welcome all people. Eighteen months is a true gift of time.

But given the report, Widening the Circle of Concern, UU clergy and church staffs have had sufficient time and data to support making how we welcome BIPOCs a special priority. I’m assuming UU clergy have ALL read the report by now. That is, unless you are a Gadfly.

If you haven’t read the report, it’s time. I’ll go further. You’re out of covenant with UUA leadership, colleagues, and congregations if you haven’t read it.

UU Church of Las Cruces is keeping it 100!

Here at UU Church of Las Cruces, the board is reading and studying the report. All members have access to the full report.

If that is your situation, please read the Commission on Appraisal’s most recent report on covenant. It is titled Unlocking the Power of Covenant. Most likely, it sits on your office desk, awaiting you to retrieve it. Get ‘er done!

Now, back to the reopening. Undoubtedly, safety is your highest priority. You’ve got to get the best minds affixed on reopening safely. No doubt, you must exercise due diligence not to encourage viral spread. That, too, deserves BIPOC input.

Again, now is the time to sharpen your skills on keeping it 100.

Definition of “Keeping it 100!”

In case you do NOT know what I mean by “keeping it 100,” here is an excerpt from my blockbuster book, The Black UU Survival Guide:

“Keeping it 100” is another way of saying keeping it real or “honoring your own experiences and feelings. Keeping it 100 invites you to be honest by prioritizing your truth. Each of us needs to separate our own truth from our parents, spouses/partners,  friends, communities, and culture. As related to being an ally, it means choosing to act in alignment with your express desires.

For example, if you believe there needs to be more equity and inclusion among White and BIPOC UUs, you’ll need to act in ways that make such equity and inclusion a reality. Your new way of being may include sacrifices you hadn’t previously considered. You may need to give up some of your privilege, preferences, and power so that BIPOC UU can exert more of their own, instead. Be prepared to abandon, or revise, the “truths” you learned about earlier in life about BIPOCs that led to contemporary disparities in UU culture.

It also means taking responsibility for your lack of understanding about race, racism, and the lives of BIPOCs. Be open and curious about how you developed the perspectives you have. What experiences do you draw upon when forming your views and ways of relating to and understanding BIPOCS.[1]

For those who are already back to in-person worship and community gathering, keep it 100!

For those getting ready, keep it 100!

For those who are already keeping it 100, right on, Ashe, and blessed be.


[1] The Black UU Survival Guide: How to Survive as a Black Unitarian Universalist and How Allies Can Keep it 100, 2021, 12.

How to Convince Your Friend to Get the Vaccine

August 15, 2021 by xk Leave a Comment

How to Convince Your Friend to Get the Vaccine

How to Convince Your Friend to Get the Vaccine. Do you have friends that have not gotten the coronavirus vaccine, yet? If the answer is yes, they need your help to find a way to get the vaccine. As a good friend, use your influence to persuade them to do the right thing.

Is important to help friends who have not gotten a vaccine make an appointment to go. Some people need prompting to help them find a solution to their problems. If a person has not got the vaccine, they are at risk of catching coronavirus, or COVID-19, and they have a problem.

Delta variant.

Here are a few easy steps to help you help your friend and family members who still need the coronavirus vaccine.

1 Ask your friend who hasn’t gotten the vaccine to explain the reasons they haven’t. Chances are that your friend may not believe they need the vaccine. They may believe is fake news that coronavirus exist. Ask them to explain the reasons they have not gone to get the vaccine, yet.

Be prepared for them to say they don’t want to tell you. But don’t let this discourage you because you need to understand it as a friend.

Listening

2 Listen carefully without interrupting. This is called active listening. It is a powerful way to build a good relationship and allow your friend to be heard. As they are talking, do not interrupt them. Even if they’re droning on, keep listening without but again.

2a If they talk without further prompting, continue to nod your head signaling you’re listening. As they talk, not your head, lean in toward them, smile and look interested. These may sound like fake ways to act, but it works.

2b If they answer, “Because I don’t want to” or something like that, ask, “How come?” The point to keep in mind here is that you need them to talk honestly. However, you don’t want them to become defensive and angry at you for trying to help them do something good for themselves and your community. So keep asking, “how come,” until you began getting good answers; real answers.

2c Keep asking “How come” until they talk. Keep repeating this phrase. Do it with curiosity, not pressure. For example, you might say, “I’m really interested in you and I care about the choices you are making.”

2d Do not ask, “Why?” because that makes people defensive. when you ask, “why?” people become upset and believe that you are attacking their reasons for acting as they do. You want to avoid this at all costs. There are more ways to ask “why” if you are imaginative.

Active listening/Mirroring

3 Begin repeating back what you heard. This is the easy step. Be persistent, but not pushy.

3a Make sure you hear “That’s right” from them. Keep trying to repeat until you hear it. A good way to know that you’re on the right track is when a person responds with something affirmative, such as, “That’s right!” When you hear that, you know that you are on the right track in that would you repeated is accurate. You should be proud of yourself for getting it right. Keep doing what you are doing and the person will continue talking because they like being heard.

Show Concern

4 Explain to them that you care about their health and want them to be safe. It’s always good to let people know the reason that you’re concerned about them. Sometimes, that helps them feel safe around you and trust that you have good intentions. Be genuine when you express your concern.

Offer to Go With Them

5 Offer to go with them to get the vaccine. Often, people are acting based on fear. They are afraid to do something that they are totally unaware of or unfamiliar with. In today’s climate, many people feel pressure because they belong to a certain group and want to act the way their group tells them to act. They may be trying to live up to a certain set of expectations, even though those expectations go against their true beliefs.

By offering to go with them, you are helping them to overcome the fear acting as a Lone Ranger. People feel better when they have someone that agrees with them to go along with them.

5a Offer to help them make an appointment. The first step in getting a coronavirus vaccine is to make an appointment at a local clinic, Walmart clinic, Walgreens pharmacy, or other approved health care place. People need to register to make the appointment. Be willing to help your friend or family member do that.

5b Find out when they plan to go for accountability. You need to hold them accountable, that is, make sure they keep their word. The best way to do that is to find out if they have a plan or schedule to go get the vaccine. If they don’t, encourage them to decide and make an appointment.

6 Be prepared to go. In the event they asked you to go with them, be ready to go at the time convenient for them, not you. Make it easy for them to keep their appointment. This is important for folks to know How to Convince Your Friend to Get the Vaccine.

Follow-Up with Your Person

7 After the appointment, follow-up to make sure they are feeling well. The vaccine has known side effects that take place today after the vaccine is received. You want to check on your friend or family to make sure they’re feeling OK. It helps to remind them that the symptoms are coming and are predictable, so they won’t be surprised. Encourage them to get rest the day after the vaccine; Not to schedule any important work or meetings or other appointments.

7a Find out when the 2nd shot appointment is, if there is one. Some vaccines require two shots, so you need to make sure your friend or family member has an appointment for round two. If they have the Johnson and Johnson vaccine, they only need one shot and they are done.

8 Repeat steps 5—7 Remember, the issue here is: How to Convince Your Friend to Get the Vaccine.

Great job!

Give yourself a pat on the back for doing such a great job and looking out for your friend and family member. Repeat this step as often as you need to make sure everyone in your friendship circle is vaccinated.

Right now, the people who are getting sick or those without vaccines. Try not to let your friends talk you out of helping them. Be strong willed and confident that you are doing the right thing for your friends, family, and your community.

Rabbi Daniel Cohen

August 14, 2021 by xk Leave a Comment

Rabbi Daniel Cohen

Take On Faith – August 14, 2021

Rabbi Daniel Cohen, Senior Rabbi at Congregation Agudath Shalom in Stamford, Connecticut, is the guest. He joined host Xolani Kacela on Take On Faith to discuss his book, what will they say about you when you are gone, published by Health Communications. The program was broadcast on KTAL-LP 101.5 in Las Cruces, NM.

Rabbi Cohen and xk discussed the seven principles for living a life of legacy. Also, they dug into the meaning of “reverse engineering” one’s life. That  describes how to live one’s true purpose and realize one’s “divine potential.”

The conversation covered many topics from the book, to include embracing meditative minutes, finding Elijah moments, and bringing light into the world through act of goodness.

Rabbi Cohen’s website is rabbidanielcohen.com.

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You can contact Rabbi Daniel Cohen at rabbicohen@cas-stamford.org.

From Guest’s Website:

Popular motivator, mentor, and inspirational speaker, Rabbi Daniel Cohen’s unique blend of authenticity, humor, wisdom, and insight helps anyone better navigate contemporary society and lead a life of legacy. Engaging in hundreds of end of life conversations and delivering thousands of eulogies provide him with a unique perspective on the essence of a meaningful life.

Rabbi Cohen has served in the rabbinate for over thirty years and currently serves as senior Rabbi at Congregation Agudath Sholom in Stamford, CT, the largest modern orthodox synagogue in New England. Rabbi Cohen is author of What Will They Say About You When You Are Gone? Creating a Life of Legacy, speaks nationally on leading a life of legacy and is currently writing two books.

The first is a parable book on the secret of the light and the second is with former NBA All Star and Olympic Gold medalist Allan Houston on legacy. He is co-host with Reverend Greg Doll of the nationally syndicated Radio Show, The Rabbi and the Reverend and writes for the Huffington Post Blog and is a Bottom Line Inc. Expert.

He enjoys doing magic shows, playing sports, writing, searching for God, and living life with joy and ever-present smile! Rabbi Cohen and Diane are the grateful parents of six daughters and two grandsons.

Teresa Valenzuela

August 11, 2021 by xk Leave a Comment

Teresa Valenzuela

Take On Faith – August 7, 2021

Teresa Valenzuela is the guest. She joined host Rev. Carolyn Wilkins for a lively conversation on Take On Faith on KTAL-LP 101.5.

Teresa Valenzuela discussed her path as a bi-lingual educator, spiritual practitioner/counselor and community service advocate. Her goal is to ‘pray it forward.’

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